Not asexual!

I am not used to post raw material like this, but I think it is time…

It is funny; many people that I have had the pleasure to meet and with whom I have been very open about my sexual orientation seem to accept it very easily.
It seems the world has been changing...

It seems it is cool to have a gay friend, even like fashion.

"Oh! Yes,
I do have a gay friend, and he is so cool!..."

So the person becomes part of the next generation, the one that is progressive and open-minded, the one that believes the world is moving ahead into a more open space to live, together, no matter the differences.
Actually embracing those differences because that is what make us rich.

However there is this part that still intrigues me. When we open the conversation to the level when my sexual orientation actually has a sexual part on it, the mood seems to change and everything goes blocked, like into darkness.

Like if we – gay boys – are just the sensitive ones, with taste for wine food and cloths. The ones who can listen the boy and help him out to get the girl he wants or to understand the weird reactions of the specie called ‘women’; or the ones that can listen to the girl and understand her frustration in her relationships with the insensitive kind called ‘men’.

We are definitely more than the nice attach to the CV of friends in the struggle to be citizens of a new world.

We love, we kiss, we work hard, we fall in love with the wrong guys (the straight ones - always happens - and the gay ones that does not worth the effort), we have sex, loads of it, and even so, we are not all promiscuous…

But yes, we do have a sexual life and we are proud of it, it make part of who we are, part of our ‘sexual’ orientation, as it has been labeled the box in which we have been put.

If you have a gay friend, allow him to express himself to the point of listening to details of what his life is, and then if you can follow through the whole conversation without feeling disgusted, my friend you can start to consider that you may have some possibility of being open-minded!

Thousands of other challenges will follow, but please do take this one, people like me need that from you.

Thanks.

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Take my hand!

This is my favorite song from Dido...

I used to have amazing nights with this song back in venezuela with my good friends and with my lovers... As I moved on, the song moved on with me and my weird relationships... Macedonia, Romania, Turkey, Netherlands and now Portugal...

I just had a reflective weekend and reconnected with the song and the journey we have had together...

Enjoy!

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The last lecture! >>> What a lecture!

Carnegie Mellon Professor Randy Pausch, who is dying from pancreatic cancer, gave his last lecture at the university Sept. 18, 2007, before a packed McConomy Auditorium.

In his moving talk, "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," Pausch talked about his lessons learned and gave advice to students on how to achieve their own career and personal goals.

"Journeys" are special University Lectures in which Carnegie Mellon faculty members share their reflections on their journeys - the everyday actions, decisions, challenges and joys that make a life.



Find more here.
Watch the complete last lecture here.

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Not the only green freak for sure!!!

To read more about Gary Vaynerchuk, visit his site here.
Check the COLORWAR2008, a complete color paranoia that has hit the web!

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Arigato Japan...

Well I am back home...

My trip to Japan has been astonishing! I have so much refreshed my soul in that couple of weeks that is hard not to "tear - tear" all around as one beautiful individual taught me at the conference in Tokyo.

I want to thank AIESEC, AP GN and the CC for an extraordinary experience.

UNIQUE!

I would love also to make explicit my desire to see again each one of the people in the faci team...
You guys are amazing!!!

You have with you the light of the determination, the lightness of youth and the enlightment of the wise...
God bless you all and each one of you.

I love you.

Thank you for give me the space to be and believe I am a good person :)

Few times in life you meet for such short time with such intensity.

Let life give us more times like the ones we lived together in Japan.
Let ourselves be courageous enough to strech our limits more often.
Let it be.

Dey

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Tokyo, Japan - 68 Countries!!!

10 years ago I wouldn't dare to dream that I will visit 68 countries in my life.
I do remember stating several times to many of my friends in Venezuela:

"By the age of 30 I will have visited 30 countries already..."

They use to laugh at me and my dreams.

Now, here I am; next Friday I will be leaving to Tokyo.
Japan will be the country number 68 that I visit.

The only thing that comes to my mind is that stuff that I said in Egypt and that was published on the newspapers:

“The dust of the days starts to cover your dreams but they are still there. Dreams never get lost.”

Dreams never get lost...

never...
_______________

My excitements is growing by the moment. I have had some chats with Shirley and things seems to be alright for the conference.
I know we will all have a blast of a time there.

In the meanwhile I am closing my deals here in Lisbon. I am putting together my report on the 4 months I have working for the Responsible Tourism venture and I must admit I am impressed by the quatity and quality of the work done.

I must confess as well that the environment in my office do support a lot the creativity and enthusiasm.
Maybe the fact that I am surrounded by AIESEC alumni influences that a lot, don't you think?

I just cannot wait longer to get to Japan and start sharing my energy, my enthsiasm and my wild spirit with the AIESECers from AP. Believe it or not , this is the first time I will truly embrace the AP culture after so many years in AIESEC.

The truth is that from outside AIESEC, things look simpler, easier, but then you realize that you must shut up. That is the path of learning that we all must go through when we are still 'part' of the organization. I must be carefull not to cross the line.

Getting back to business; these next two weeks away from job will help me breathe as well and get some new ideas, refreshed ones. I have been very much inside the box for the last four months. This trip is coming in the right time.

When I get back the hard part of the job will start! Putting together a global venture is a very challenging task to do. Even more when you have high expectations of yourself and when your shareholders have even bigger expectations.
But that will come as its time.

For the moment I just want to enjoy the number...
68!

Numbers matter! That is what I know for certain when I revisit everything that is behind that number: the people I met, the experiences I had, jail, malaria, laugh, tears, visas, love, food, dances, beer, sex, challenges, achievements, dissapointment... but most of all, a growing sense of what I am capable of.

If the 68 makes me capable, what will do for me the 70?
I am planning to get there before I get 34...
Always trying to reach more that the double :)

Dey

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A gift for my AI0607 team!!

Hey beautiful individuals...

You can choose the version you prefer the most...

Good memories I hope :)

Miss you guys.

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